Match.com, Tinder, Plenty of fish and etc.
Such online dating app/sites are supposed to be created to help singles finding a love.
But the reality of online dating app/sites are more games than proper processes to establish a relationship.
This conclusion is based on my experiences and what I have seen on the Internet.
Users are only those who want a partner: that should be true.
But predators and players are in the league of online dating scene.
In my experiences, I had had good talks with ladies and thought it was time to ask them to meet in person, like:
Me: Are you free on Sunday?
Woman: I am available in the morning on Sunday.
Me: How about having coffee? What time and where shall we meet?
Woman: Where is the best place to meet up?
The woman doesn't answer my question and seems to derail the entire process.
Then it's the game and not the process to establish a relationship.
In the above case, she had told me that she was fine if we dated (she's 20 years junior to me). Then she behaves so weird.
Other experiences were ladies who were supposed to meet me in person didn't turn up - other games.
In my researching, online dating users complain about no existing of chemistry, I found out.
It's extremely hard to detect chemistry from text messages (online communication).
Chemistry occurs from facial expressions, presentations of verbal communications (how s/he talks) and non verbal communications in front of you (like her/his physical contacts).
How can we find chemistry from only text messages? People think what s/he says reflect on her/his personality, characters and attitudes?
As long as people can pretend who they are online, these communications often don't reflect on who they really are.
Then when woman and man meet in person eventually, both of them are disappointed. Because they played games.
In other words, they had played in an online soap opera.
Online dating users are required to be a sales person as they want to attract opposition sex. But as above, it's the part of the game. And to attract more people, they have to mislead public so that opposition sex will buy their product.
Although this sad reality, many people still rely on such services as they think they have the same purpose to be on with others - finding a love.
Even I am single and turn 47 in two months, I won't reply on online dating sites for a love. Even I won't be a member of any Facebook page establish to seek a partner. It's all rubbish for me.
I will meet a woman in person and deepen a friendship both off and online.
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